School drop-off is at 8:00.
The drive takes 10 minutes.
It’s currently 7:50.
And there she is—your gorgeous, fiercely independent 9-year-old…
Still in her pajamas. Still eating breakfast. Still at the kitchen counter.
You know what’s coming…
She’s going to be late. Again.
Then…the Spiral Starts.
“I should’ve gotten her up earlier. I should’ve gotten me up earlier. Why can’t I get her to move faster? What is wrong? What is wrong with me? The school must think I’m a mess. Why can’t we ever just get it together?”
“At this rate, I’m going to miss my 9:00 meeting. We’ve got to get moving. This morning is a total $#@!-show.”
And then…
Well—I know what happens in my house.
I snap. I grab her plate.
“I don’t care if you’re not done. We have to go.”
“Brush your teeth. Get dressed. We’re going to be late. We’ve gotta go now. Pleeeeease, hurry up. For the love of Gawwwwwwd!”
My voice climbs into a pitch I’m not proud of.
Her energy skyrockets in response—huffing, puffing, slamming, crying.
And as the energy goes up, my heart sinks.
This isn’t how I wanted the morning to go.
This isn’t how I wanted to start our day.
This isn’t the mom I want to be.
I’m not proud to admit it.
But we’ve had more than one of these mornings.
Please—tell me you’ve been there too?
When I reflect back (after the coffee kicks in and the chaos has settled), I ask myself: What tools do I have to make mornings more connected instead of chaotic?
Two tools come to mind:
🧠 Emotional Intelligence
🔮 Intuition
Emotional Intelligence: A Quick Definition
The Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence defines Emotional Intelligence (EI) as:
“The ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.”
In simpler terms, EI is the ability to pause in the middle of big emotions—and still think clearly and act wisely.
The Ability Model (Salovey and Mayer) of EI asks us to consider:
- Can I think clearly in an emotionally charged situation?
- How do intense emotions impact my actions?
- How do my child’s emotions impact my own?
But in the moment, let’s be real—I’m not asking myself those questions. Not at 7:50 a.m. when the hair is a mess and one shoe is nowhere to be found.
However, at any moment, we can hit the emotional reset button. Do a body scan: take a deep breath, ground, feel where the emotions are in your body. Are you able to reframe your words and use a different tone?
Getting back into a positive frame of mind and emotional state, allows you to better control the emotions that are coming to the surface. You can be more in control of how your emotions are impacting your connection. And watch…your child might respond in kind.
So what about the 2nd Tool…Intuition?
Intuition, as understood by Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, and Thích Nhất Hạnh, “is a quiet, inner knowing that arises without logic or reasoning. It does not arrive through analysis or intellect, but through presence and awareness. It acts as an internal compass—subtle, yet powerful—guiding your next step.”
Taking a pause and calming our mind, we more easily access our inner knowing. Which allows us to better handle the 7:50 am rush. However, what this really means is that before our feet even hit the floor at 6:50 am…we have to connect with our clairs and ask some key questions about where we are energetically and what we expect for the day ahead.
· Clairsentience (Feeling): What’s my emotional state?
· Clairaudience (Hearing): What’s the tone of my inner voice?
· Clairvoyance (Seeing): Am I picturing a disaster before it even begins?
· Claircognizance (Knowing): Do I have an inkling about the day ahead?
Just three minutes of an intentional check in—with yourself and your energy—can radically shift the entire morning.
When we pause, connect, and listen inwardly—we parent more from love than from urgency.
And then mornings…start to look a little different.
Can you relate?
Would this 3-minute intuitive check-in help you on your parenting journey?
Kate’s Personal Perspective
In our home, we practice emotional awareness daily. For example, I ask my son to imagine how others might feel. It’s important to help him grow the skill of empathy. I believe empathy is the key in shaping a more heart-centered world.
Intuition is an undercurrent in our home. We explore our dreams, pause to feel instead of pushing through, and make space for nature, creativity, music, and even conversations about the unseen. These small practices are the values that keep us present, open, and connected.
Jen’s Personal Perspective
So…our house is a little different than Kate’s. I have a magical, incredible, and verbalish daughter. When it comes to expressing frustration, sadness, or disappointment, words fail her. That’s why my intuition has to lead in our household. I can’t rely on hearing what she wants to express. I have to let my clairs guide me to be the best mom I can be for her.
Note: ChatGPT gave us the mash up definition of intuition from Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, and Thích Nhất Hạnh
To learn more about Jen and Kate, visit www.ClairsMagic.com
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